When Love Goes Wrong

When I decided to write a book about the experience of shame and Christian spiritual growth, I didn’t talk about it much. Too negative, too discouraging—these were the reactions I figured I’d get. But I was wrong. Instead, I’ve been amazed, mildly startled actually, by the consistently constructive,...

Trading in Black Friday for Good Friday

One of Lent’s gifts to me is the painful realization that my default behavior is set on “Black Friday.” Here’s what I mean. It’s as if I’ve camped outside Target at 4:59 a.m. on the day after Thanksgiving every day, poised and ready to run when the doors open at 5:00 a.m.—“Get out of my...

Embraced by the Crucified One

When we try to pray, God often beats us to the punch and prays in us, offering us gifts of quiet assurance, challenge, and consolations that appear to come out of nowhere. God recently gifted me with an image of saving grace that was born of God’s good Spirit touching my imagination and creating in my...

Putting Up with Pretend Crosses

I played the victim on Ash Wednesday. Early that morning I discovered I couldn’t get online, and I spent a frustrating hour fixing it, before devoting the rest of the morning to working on a new book I’m writing. I figured I’d have lunch and then put everything I’ve written so far in...

Computers, Candy, and Distractions

Some friendships seem timeless, even a little eternal. After all, don’t we all reconnect with some people we haven’t seen in years, and after 10 minutes or so, it’s as if the intervening years never happened? This happened to me recently when I drove to rural Iowa to see a Trappist monk and a...

« Older Entries