As we put the finishing touches on the October issue of Liberty+Vine magazine, my thoughts turn to fear. That’s because we chose the concept of fear and its many facets as the driver behind next month’s articles in L+V.
Fear isn’t always a bad thing, of course. Sometimes it helps us make safer, wiser decisions; sometimes fear is our gut giving us good advice!
But when we let fear control us, that’s when the tide turns. And it seems that as we get older—and we feel we have more to lose—we start to cling to fear as a defense. We sometimes tell ourselves we’re being prudent or practical when, in fact, we’re just afraid of change and risk.
At a recent event, a successful Cincinnati businesswoman described how she built her career and changed her life despite being a divorced mom dealing with bankruptcy. Although I (thankfully) haven’t been in such straits in my own life, her words of wisdom resonated with me.
Our futures, she explained, are limited only by ourselves—by what we think, what we choose, how we spend our time. She urged the audience not to live the dreams of their friends or families, but to pursue their own paths and get excited about what awaits. As she noted, laughing, “We’re not going to get out of this alive, anyway.”
Her point was that we all have ways of holding ourselves back, and often they’re rooted in the fear of failure, fear of the unknown, or fear of rejection. But indeed, we are chosen as children of God to find our particular path and take it—never looking back.
Maybe none of these thoughts was an astoundingly new revelation, but on that morning, they were the words I needed to hear.
“Take grace and mercy with you wherever you go. Love yourself, accept yourself, even though you don’t always understand yourself.”