What exactly makes a friend a friend?
We know being connected via Facebook doesn’t mean someone is truly your friend. But I’m starting to believe that things we encounter on Facebook, and other social media outlets, might be more telling than we’d like to think.
The 2012 US election cycle was absolutely painful for this country. The amount of vitriol and rhetoric spewed from all sides was disgusting and disheartening. For the past month or so, since the Sandy Hook shootings, some of the static that had been quieted has returned and perhaps been magnified.
Everything, it seems, is a political argument. Every news story, however seemingly benign, is the source of a deep ideological and philosophical rift.
Most of us want to be, or at least believe, we’re open-minded. We like to think we can be friends with people of differing backgrounds and viewpoints. What a boring world it would be if we all agreed all the time!
But when is the line crossed? When do you look up and think, “If this person really believes XYZ, and I really believe the opposite, can we indeed be friends who love and respect each other?”
For example, if you are wholly in favor of gun control and your friend is an NRA supporter, at what point does that difference speak to an irreparable misalignment of core values? The same question can be asked on any number of topics related to social justice: economic questions, life issues, immigration, etc.
So what exactly makes a friend a friend? How do you define it? And when is a divide simply to wide to cross?
Please share your thoughts and experiences.