Forgiveness is one of those things that is so much easier to talk about than to do. In my own life, as a young wife and mother, even though I loved God and wanted to extend his grace to others, often little irritations or slights occurred (I felt excluded; I didn’t feel appreciated; someone else took credit for my idea), and suddenly I would feel hurt at my core, personally affronted, taken by surprise–and instead of being an agent of healing, I nursed my grievances. Finally someone much older and wiser than me took me aside and gently said, “You are thin-skinned; you need to develop a thicker skin.” That opened my eyes, and though it didn’t happen overnight, I did develop a thicker skin (not too thick, I hope). And from that stronger inner place, I found the ability to let go and extend forgiveness.
In a wonderful new book by two very gifted authors, Teresa Tomeo and Cheryl Dickow, forgiveness is one of the gifts God gives women (Wrapped Up: God’s Ten Gifts for Women, Servant, August 2012). Yes! It’s a gift from God, it’s one we extend to others, and it’s one we give ourselves. Here are two of the takeaways from Teresa and Cheryl, one timeless and one timely:
In the freedom of my own new beginnings,
I extend forgiveness to others quickly and easily.
I open my heart wide to receive the gift of God’s forgiveness,
and I courageously forgive those who have hurt me.
An upcoming offering from another talented author, Genevieve Kineke, covers the subject of forgiveness in more detail. Set Free: The Authentic Catholic Guide to Forgiveness shows women how they can move past both the traumatic and the trivial events in their lives in order fully embrace their vocation to love.
How have you been able to extend the grace of forgiveness to someone else?
When have you experienced the grace of being forgiven by someone?
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