One day, I looked up and I was 35 years old.
A few months later, I looked up and a disturbing number of my friends were facing issues with their marriages. Big issues. As in, “I think I might leave” issues.
It’s affecting friends male and female alike, at varying stages in their marriages, and it’s happening for a variety of reasons.
Some of these couples have children; others don’t. Some are fighting; others are barely talking. Some are going to counseling; others have tried it to little avail; still others are on the brink of just giving up.
One friend used the term “mid-life crisis” almost jokingly. “Watch out, the Ferrari might be next,” my friend wrote in an e-mail.
Gags aside, though, I’m starting to think this mid-life crisis thing is more than just a convenient device to wrap movie plots around.
There’s really something happening here to a group of people I love, all between the ages of 30-45. And if I’m honest about it, I think it’s happening to me, too.
The good news is, we’re not alone. The bad news is … we’re not alone.
It begs the question: What’s causing all of this emotional turmoil and upheaval?
I wonder if we have unrealistic expectations for what life can or should hold. I also wonder if many of us have based major life decisions on the expectations of others.
What I most wonder is how we all can get through this and help each other in the process. (I frequently catch myself giving advice before I think, “Seriously? What do I know about anything?”)
Have you been through major periods of uncertainty and questioning? How did you find peace?
Where did you find the answers?
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