Giving Up the Grudge

Giving Up the Grudge

Did you happen to see last week’s episode of “Brawling Brothers” on MOBBED? I love that show! That particular episode was about forgiveness between two brothers.

When younger brother Nick couldn’t find it in his heart to forgive his older brother for his actions, animosity and anger filled his heart. Nick’s refusal to forgive had a ripple effect causing separation for the entire family.  It took an extreme and dramatic event to finally soften the younger brother’s heart enough to forgive the older one.

Also just last week, the feuding actors who played Janet and Chrissy on the ever-popular series Three’s Company finally reconciled after 31 years!!  Thirty-one years is a long time to hold a grudge!

We are all unique individuals (Thank God!). We all have our own personalities, our own talents and even our own idiosyncrasies. So, sometimes another person’s words or actions are quite different than our own and can cause us great angst. When someone wrongs us, we have a tendency to harden our hearts in a defensive manner, rather than to open up and become vulnerable to being hurt again. 

“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you.” – Corrie Ten Boom  

The problem with refusal to forgive is that it hurts ourselves, holding us bound with negative feelings of pain, anger and resentment. These feelings inhibit us from being the person we are meant to be.

Jesus not only commanded us to LOVE one another but also to FORGIVE. To forgive is to be obedient to God’s will.

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. -Matthew 6:14-16

During this upcoming season of Lent, perhaps the greatest thing we can “give up” is what is most weighing us down. Be proactive. Let go of the hurt in your heart and make room for love. You will feel free. And most assuredly, you will be pleasing God, who is all love.


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About the Author

Sharon Lape is an editorial assistant in the periodicals department at Franciscan Media. She also researches and provides content for the popular Minute Meditations feature. Sharon is a wife and a mother of four children.
  • Susan Carroll

    Thank you for such incredible insight! Anger and resentment truly are imprisonment for the heart and soul. Forgiveness sets us free.