“I Believe the Sex Abuse Thing was Incredibly Good.”

“I Believe the Sex Abuse Thing was Incredibly Good.”

Are you there, Cardinal Egan? It’s me, reality.

In response to “Retired Cardinal Edward Egan Faces Criticism For Taking Back Abuse Apology,” let me offer a coupla pointers:

1. Nothing that can be called “the sex abuse thing” is ever good. Not even a tiny bit good, much less “incredibly.” Not even if it cures polio, inaugurates a golden age of peace and flying cars, or brings Bambi’s mother back to life. Sex abuse = Bad.

2. There are no takesy-backsies on apologies. If you screw up (and you did), and are forced to apologize (and you were), you don’t get to undo it in retirement with, “I’m sorry, but I don’t think we did anything wrong.”

3. If you truly are “very proud of how this thing was handled,” you shouldn’t be. At the very least, you shouldn’t admit it.

I know sometimes terrible things happen and there’s nothing we can do about it. I know it’s hard when the good guys get lumped in with the bad guys, or when a couple of bad guys make the whole church look bad. But when something is bad—and bad for everybody—don’t make light.

Terrible things happened. Good people were hurt. And those of us who say we aren’t sorry are the sorriest of all. And that, sir, is reality.

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Kathleen M. Carroll is the managing editor for the book department at Franciscan Media. She loves reading, gardening, animals, babies, baby animals, and extreme recycling. She is the stay-away-from-home mother to four really good-looking children. And no, she will not read your manuscript.
 
 
 
  • Tstager

    Great comment, you have the best reply

  • Northshorecw

    Oh what sad state of affairs our church is in! Oh what a group of ethically impoverished men we have as our leaders. Time to change the structure for the “good” of the church !!

  • Guest

    You are spot on!  There are NO excuses…  It does not matter if it was on his watch, or that it was only a small percentage, etc.

  • Nancy Vanni

    Yes, yes, yes.  Too bad they weren’t so passionate about the sexual abuse as they are about birth control.  I’m having a hard time.