A Friend In Need

A Friend In Need

I have a very dear friend who has been by my side for more than a decade now, offering me love, encouragement, advice and support.

He is a unique and beautiful human being, one who doesn’t appreciate his own value. I was delighted a few years ago when my friend met a glorious woman who did appreciate him and who saw all the things in my friend that I see. She fell in love with him, and he with her, and shortly thereafter the two were married in a small ceremony that radiated love unlike any other wedding I’ve attended.

But now my friend’s wife is gone. Only six months after they married, she was diagnosed with cancer. In August — before their second wedding anniversary — this woman who had been so full of life and joy was lost to the earthly world.

Moving forward

And so now what?

Where does my friend go now, and how do I help him?

He continues to go to work each day and takes great comfort in the dog he and his wife adored.

But his spirit is hurting, and all I want to do is make it better.

I realize, of course, that that’s the job of time and that all I can do is continue to love him and talk to him and offer to help in any way I can. I pray for him, and I most certainly believe his wife looks down upon him and sends her love to him, and that he can feel it.

But the fact is, I’ve never faced such a profound loss. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a whole part of myself, with no hope of getting it back. I don’t know how I would cope, much less how I can help my friend find strength to keep having faith in life.

Keeping him in my prayers

I told him, just after his wife died, that I knew their wedding day had been the happiest day of her life. My friend responded by saying it was the happiest day of his life, too — exceeded only by every other day he got to spend with his bride.

I want my friend to have more happy days, and I hope that I might have a role in helping him heal.

For now, I’ll just keep praying. I’ll ask God to watch over my friend and to give me the grace to know the right things to do and to say.

If you have room for one more intention, would you pray for my friend, too?

 
 

About the Author

Jennifer Scroggins joined Franciscan Media in July 2010 as division director of content creation and services. A northern Kentucky native, Jennifer is passionate about travel, sports, cooking, fitness, music and the Catholic faith. She is a member of St. Paul parish in Florence, Ky.
 
 
 
  • Elise

    Too often we think “All I can do is pray” because is seems so intangible. Prayer is the most powerful weapon available to us, and prayer in numbers or from just one voice is heard and answered. I will add your friend too my prayers. I cannot fathom his pain, but I know God can.

  • Betty

    Our mother always said that anyone who lost a spouse and had a truly loving marriage, would find love again! I found this to be true, when a good friend of mine, passed away on her daughter’s 5th birthday. I felt so sorry for her dear husband and three children. But just as mother had predicted, within a few short years, this man found a wonderful new wife and step-mother to his children. So I will keep your friend in my prayers and leave the rest to God.

  • Mary Carol Kendzia

    Perhaps the hardest thing in death is the tangible loss of someone whom you loved and loved you in return. Your presence to your friend is a great gift right now, as a reminder that he is loved, and of the deep and profound love he shared with his wife.

  • Sanorared

    It sounds like your friend is lucky to have you in his corner. And even luckier that you realize the power of prayer! I know your friend will forever cherish the fact that he had this love in his life if only for a short time. And I know your prayers will help him heal and grow from this hurting part of his journey.